18 Struggles of Having an Outgoing Personality But Actually Being Shy and Introverted
“4. When you do choose to grace a party with your presence, you are the life of it. You’re dancing on the table and doing body shots until 3 a.m.
5. … You then retreat into three days of complete solitude to recover.”
I laughed initially and then went “oh… crap.”
I could keep quoting the article because they’re just so funny AND accurate but have a looksie and I’ll get back to the point of this post.
So, we’ve established I have an outgoing personality but that I’m also naturally shy, awkward, and introverted.
Let’s also establish that I gain immense energy helping others. People are one of my core passions.
Through working with people professionally and academically for the last decade, I’ve cultivated this outgoing personality (I like to think of it as a switch that’s flipped) to help ease the shy, awkward HB whose instinct is to live in her shell.
You may be thinking, “well that sounds tiring!”
It is. And it’s why I’m super protective of down/free time. And also why I’m pulled between the online community and in-person, both feed different parts of me.
Which is all great stuff! It keeps life interesting and presents very different challenges that I enjoy.
Right now I am throwing my hat into an all new arena that is shaking up my little introverted world: entrepreneurship. And this is how I’m feeling: F*!@k YES!, OH SH!T!, WTF DO I FOCUS ON FIRST?!
Website face-lift. Customizing graphics with software I haven’t used since high school. Photos for website. Small business 101: rules, regulations, etc. Information/Content, oh my goodness the information I want/need to absorb. Networking, online and in-person: social media, meet-ups, meetings, connections.
You get the picture. Not to mention the holidays are already upon us, the regular j-o-b, friends/family, and the delightful book club I just joined. Oh, and essential human needs like food, sleep, and bathing.
Here’s the kicker: I don’t mind doing the work. OK, I don’t particularly like Adobe Photoshop right now but eventually I might.
I don’t mind doing the work because it’s my dream unfolding, however slowly.
But what I’m continuously learning about is this ever elusive state called balance.
The rolling to-do list can overwhelm anyone. It is so essential this time of year to slow down and ground yourself in the present moment. Especially for my fellow introverts that need time to themselves in order to reboot and get back out there.
And here comes the cliche:
Rome Oprah wasn’t built in a day.
Seriously, she wasn’t, I swear.
Here’s the scene for this evening: I’ve got about 5 books, 3 podcasts, and numerous articles I want to ingest, a basket of clothes to fold, a new load to wash, the kitty needs litter, we don’t have all ingredients for dinner makings, and holiday shopping lists to scribe.
And you know what I’m gonna do? Use my 45-minute bus ride home to catch up on some reading, hug Bryan for longer than normal, make a snide remark to my obnoxious yet lovable kitty, and park myself on the couch to ask myself the following question: “how do I want to feel tonight?”
Would venturing to the store for cat litter and dinner items make me feel best? Would ordering takeout and watching a funny movie while I fold laundry make me feel better?
Prioritize and do what needs to be done but check-in with yourself. Let your feelings lead.
Instant gratification is a thing, I totally get it. We want what we want and we want it now. But life doesn’t work that way.
I will learn Photoshop at the speed that’s right for me. My graphic designer and I will work to launch the new site as soon as possible. I am reading and learning everything I need to know at the time I need to know it.
It’s all happening the way it’s supposed to.
Divine timing. Say it with me now: “ommm.”
Ahhh, much better.
If you like this whole getting in tune with your feelings thing, do I have a surprise coming your way. *wiggles eyebrows* Make sure you enter your e-mail in the little box to the right -> -> -> and be the first to know about the upcoming news!
If you need a little more love and grounding for the holidays, checkout this article from Dr. Deb Kern as part of her contributing series to a lovely new lifestyle site called Annapurna Living by Carrie-Anne Moss.
If you need holiday gift ideas, might I suggest two products I loooove:
- Danielle LaPorte’s #Truthbomb deck! These nuggets of wisdom are luscious with gold foil embossing. Gold. Foil. People. Personally, I use mine as a daily divination deck. Check ‘em out!
- Looking for the day planner of your dreams? I keep an electronic calendar, yes, but I am a total sucker for the hardcover, ribbon place holder, old fashioned day planner. It’s got room for to-do lists, passion projects, gratitude lists, and more! I’ve already requested one from Santa.
Sending you lots of light, comfort, and peace this holiday season, loves.